Rage....

RAGE.... I really never understood this word all this while and had always considered this as a sophisticated name for anger...!However, in the past few days I have constantly been confronted with this word, to an extent that I thought I should really understand this word beyond its dictionary meaning.
I read a few articles on the net and this is what I have understood ....

To many of us anger and rage is same, rage is just the next step to anger. Yes, it is. But we all know what causes us to get angry.. simple things like "My daughter did not listen to me so I am angry with her". But rage is different. Rage is a behavior that every person exhibits in some form. Rage is often used to denote hostile/affective/reactive aggression (as distinct from predatory/instrumental/proactive aggression). It denotes aggression where there is anger present, that is motivated by causing harm to others, and that is characterized by impulsive thinking and a lack of planning. This is a behavioral side that many would not like others to see, but does often persist in extreme situations.Rage tends to be expressed when a person faces a threat to their pride, position, status or dignity. Anger is a feeling that we all encounter from time to time, and frequently we experience it as a response to frustration, hurt, disappointment, and threats (real or imagined).
Frequently the underlying anger is related to a perceived loss of control over factors affecting our integrity—our beliefs and how we feel about ourselves. In some cases, the anger has to do with the inability to meet unrealistic expectations (our own or those who ha ve e xpe c ta tions of u s ) . Rage is a shame based expression of that anger. Rage i s the accumulation of unexpressed anger and perceived disrespectful transactions that after multiple “stuffings” finally flow to the surface.
In short, all of us at some point in life get angry and many carry it in their hearts. When there is no more place in the heart to carry that anger or move on with it ... rage takes over. So rage takes over each one of us at some point in life .. frequency and intensity differs from person to person.

That brings me to my next question on how do we deal with ourselves when we are in rage .. or when we are considered to be in rage. That is when I went through this nice article on dealing with rage.... http://www.cyquest.com/pathway/rage.html. I found this article answering a lot of questions. It sums up that crying away your rage is the best way to let go off your fears and frustrations. As grown ups we feel... its so childish to cry, but psychologically crying seems to be a healer for all the fears and irritations we have in us. Its one of the most natural instincts that we posses as human beings, and probably that is why an infant cries.... in order to show its dissatisfaction or to get attention.

So... to all my friends and people who may read this.... next time you find yourself in not so good situations and want to let go off it and move on... cry!! and let your anger and rage move out!